Inviting Change into your life

Many of us go through life wondering when it will change. Day after day we think the same old thoughts, have the same old problems, the same old routines, and we get fed up. And we say in despair ‘God, how much longer do I have to suffer this?' and God's only reply, if we ever stop to hear it, is, "as long as you wish".

We spend hours, days, months seeking solace, seeking the ability to change our lives -outside of us. We seek a different job, a different house, a different spouse- but no matter what we change outside us, after a point we realise -nothing really changed, it is all still the same!

Then suddenly we are given the tools to make it change. They appear in our lives simply because we wished to know what to do to change our life. We learn that it is our thoughts that have made our lives, that have created our reality so far. So, in order to change our lives, we need to change the way we think. We are enlightened to the fact that change happens inside out- not outside in. So the new job, the new house, the spouse may only serve to show us that changing anything outside-never really changed life for us, it may have only compounded the problems we originally had.

But when faced with this bit of information, most people go into a phase of denial. We dont want to accept that it was our thinking that created the lives we live, the lives we want to change. ‘how could I have created this for myself?' or ‘No, I did not wish that to happen to me!' We go on denying our power to change our lives as long as we go on saying things like these, and feel that we are doomed to suffer forever!

Very often, we get so comfortable in our ‘uncomfortable comfort zones' that any change, even if it is for the better, seems to threaten us. Our old fears take control. You could get a better job, and that voice in your head tells you- ‘you won't be able to cope with that! You are not capable' or that ‘you know you don't really deserve this!' and depending on how strongly you fear this- you will end up making a mess of it to support your belief. You could get a better spouse, but that voice in your head may shout " he/she is too good to be true!" or that ‘it is not going to last' and sure enough it wont.

The way to change our lives then, is really very simple, and we end up complicating it.

To change your life- just change your attitude to it, to change your attitude, change the way you think. It may be easier said than done, because the cause of resistance to change is within you and cannot be seen, it is that voice, that old tape in your head, that is what you got to change. To change that voice, that old outdated tape- you've got to give it something new to say. To give it something new to say, you have got to say it aloud to yourself first, repeat it over and over again till the old stuff is overwritten.

But the first step to overcome that resistance is simply to say- "I'm ready to change, I'm ready to accept change in my life, I now invite change into my life, and embrace it with open arms!"